Monthly Archives: July 2012

Share your Junk, Change the World.

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I recently saw a picture of an older couple. They were holding hands and walking. The woman said to her husband “I can’t believe we have made it through sixty-five years together”. The husband said to the wife “That’s because in out time, when things were broke, we fixed them”. This really spoke to me because I found it relate-able in my own life. My generation, (and I’m sorry folks, but it’s true) are such wasteful, lazy people. That’s why most of us are thirty, thirty five and living at home! In our grandparents time, I’m pretty sure it was like ” Happy birthday, your eighteen, now get out!” I think this was in love, because they knew they did a good job preparing you to live your life.  Now, maybe our parents coddled us a bit to much, but come people we are our own people, capable of making our own destiny.  I think the reason why we fail is because 1) our generation is lazy & greedy. We expect every thing to be given to us or just fall off in our laps, which ultimately gets us nowhere. 2) Just like my picture reference, our generation feels that when things are broken, get a new one. This is the main reason the age for marriage is getting higher and higher, and…..a lot of us still live at our parents!

Okay I’m done ranting, this blog is actually not about all that,this blog is about something that is happening, kind of under ground that I think has massive hope to change some things for us! I first noticed, a very long time ago, that Craigslist.org had a “FREE” section. I have used this many times. People make a free post to get rid of something they want gone like, couches, clothes, paint, whatever, then people can read the posts and if they see something that they need, they respond, set up a meeting time and remove the item.  Then I found Freecycle.org. This site is a little more complicated to sign up for but totally worth it. This one is a community based site, and works through emails, and chat rooms. Same idea though: if someone needs something they would make a post under “wanted”. If they want to get rid of something “offer”.

This is such a fantastically phenomenal concept. Come on people, we are in poverty & we love to throw stuff away. Think about the impact it would make? First of all, instead of gathering all kinds of junk in your house to wait for trash day, you can have someone come to you right away and remove it…free of charge! You gotta love that. On the better part, this is such a cool thing for people that need something but are broke. It is such a mutually beneficial exchange.

If you’ve tried this or if you try it soon, I urge you to share your experience with EVERYONE. I really believe that this concept could help masses of people…And sharing is caring! It will make you feel really good on the inside.

And, I’d like to add this. I also tried this kind of thing using Facebook. I put a post up telling people that I had a business idea but I needed a home PC, so if anyone had an old one lying around, I’d greatly appreciate it. I got a response from a boy, that I wasn’t quite sure how we were friends. It turns out he was a friend and co-worker of my little brother. This kid reached out and is building me a computer as we speak! Thank you Danny Ortiz! You are so kind. People take a page from Danny’s book.

We can make a difference! Just do it!

Sharing is Caring

Sharing is Caring

Sharing is Caring

Wash your Attitude!

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This is one of my core beliefs… If you want to change your life: the best place to start is with your attitude. Seems simple enough, I think.

“Don’t sweat he small stuff. It’s all small stuff.” ~Zig Ziglar

Within all my struggles: lost love, the addiction, abuse it would have been very easy for me to slip into the whole whoa is me, why is this happening to me attitude, but the thing with that is when you have that attitude then everything that happens is happening directly to or toward you.  People often ask me how I stay so happy knowing the challenges I am facing. Which is hard for me to understand, because I don’t know any different, I guess it’s all due to my attitude. A positive outlook and good attitude are really the only things necessary for one to be happy, because ultimately no matter what happens to you: if you are able to maintain that attitude, nothing is really that big of a deal! At least that’s how I feel about it. For me, maintaining a positive attitude makes my life so much easier. I have very little stress, I am very hard to shake up and you know what else: My life is pretty fun!

Here are some ways that you can WASH YOUR ATTITUDE:

  • Stop focusing on yourself. A lot of pessimism arises from false or unreasonable expectations, especially when those expectations involve yourself. Plus when you help others, you help yourself! Make an effort to reach out and help at least 1 person every day without expecting anything in return. Over time, you may find more joy in giving rather than receiving.
  • Face your flaws.  (Scary… I know, but look at it more as an adventure) We all have something upon which we can improve, so whether you’re at work, at home, or anywhere else, be open to learning more.Make a list of all your weaknesses and flaws. At the beginning of every week, take one of those listed flaws and think about what you could learn concerning that weakness. Use the remainder of the week to learn even more.
  • Look on the bright side. In every undesirable circumstance, there is always a way to look on the brighter side. This isn’t to say that you should live your life dishonestly, always ignoring the bad in favor of a fake smile. Instead, accept the bad things but also think about how much worse it could have been. For example, maybe you just got into a car accident and need to pay a lot of money for reparations and medical bills. One way to look on the bright side is to be grateful that you are still alive without permanent damage to your body or your brain.
  • Count your blessings. I’ve blogged about this before: Remember : Count your blessings fight your Jabbawaocky! Post up a blank sheet of paper on your wall, or use a journal. Every morning, as soon as you’ve woken up, think of one blessing in your life that hasn’t already been written on the paper and write it down. Counting your blessings will help you see that your life isn’t all doom and gloom, that you have reasons to be happy and joyful.

Like I said… Pretty simple stuff. It’s not like I’m asking you to do brain surgery?? Just give it a try…I’m betting you’ll surprise yourself, and if all else fails and you get into a sticky situation, just remember: WWHD! What would Heather do?

Don’t wait too long to learn what I’ve learned. Wash your attitude right now. Change it this minute. You’d be surprised how much you really can change the world just by changing your attitude. Washing your attitude can change your life. Changing your life can change the lives of those around you. Changing the lives of those around you can, ultimately, change the world. When you hear about changing the world, don’t sit back and say you can’t do anything. There is one thing you can do every single day that will make the world a better place: Wash your attitude.

 

Invisible man Invisible plan.

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So, We’ve talked about it before….my online dating. Keeping that in mind, this is a typical nightly routine for me. After I have got the baby to bed, dishes washed, and what ever else: I get in bed, turn on my cartoons, and jump on POF (Plenty Of Fish) I read and respond to messages, and occasionally scroll thru men that are online.

Rarely but occasionally I’ll get a message from someone who interest me, the scrolling mostly consist of: No. No. No. No. Oh hell No. When I do find someone that I find appealing, we start first by sending messages thru the online site for awhile. If things progress, we’ll move to texting. If things are still good after a week or so, maybe we will talk on the phone. That’s usually where it ends, if it makes it till then.. because well, let’s face it: Everyone on that site, in my experience, are freaks!

Anyhow, my point is this. In a normal relationship, you’d come home home, chit chat and enjoy each others company. This, I believe, makes people feel a sense being wanted, desired or whatever. All the same things I seek from POF.

I noticed lately how routine it is for me to get on there. Like it’s my boyfriend. I go there looking for companionship, flattery, and entertainment, but ultimately it’s kind of like never never land. I mean, it doesn’t really exist. The relationships you build with people there are fake and it’s a false sense of security. When I got to thinking about it, I was really kind of disgusted with myself. I’m outgoing. I’m fun. People seem to like me and yet here I was having a relationship with a website! Ugghh! I feel so dirty!

The question is……Is having a relationship with a website better than no relationship at all???

 

Nine leaves

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Stuck in a rut

In a hamster ball

The faster I run

The harder the fall

Spinning & spinning

Going nowhere at all

Praying to move

No one answers the call

Hello…

Are you there….

I’ve been doing my best

It’s been long past a trial

Long passed a test

I have the potential

Like a spread wildfire

Just let me move forward

It’s what I desire

(The preface) Many times in my life, more recently, most heavily, I have wondered WHY bad things are drawn to me, when I put out so much good energy? Especially since I’m a huge believer in energy and karma and such things. Love just won’t stick to me, and I often feel as though something is weighing me to the ground. Something not allowing me to move forward in life…..

So, I have always wanted to go see a psychic, and since I’m exploring life more these days, I did it. I made an appointment to get a Tarot reading. It was a nice little older lady, whom I was instantly drawn to. When she started reading the cards, I was really impressed (my brother thinks I’m just a chump). She started off impressing me when she said ” I see that in your own life, you are always there to help anyone in need, but often times in your life when you need help, the people you expect to be there are not. This has conditioned you to never ask anyone for help. You would rather go without than to ask for help” Which is spot on!!! Then she told me she saw drug abuse in my past, and mental/ physical abuse.  At this point, I was feeling like I completely trusted her and she was really doing something with those cards (my brother says they are trained to read people, and she could tell all that stuff by my appearance) but I was all in. Then all the sudden she stopped looking at the cards, took a deep breath, turned to me and said

” This is not part of your card reading but I feel I have an obligation to tell you, I sense something dark attached to you. I see your colors used to shine very bright, but they are currently grey. I know you often feel like you can not move forward in your life. You may often feel confused, this all is connected to a dark energy block that is on you. I do not know if this is something that has been passed down with in your family, if someone placed it on you, or if you were just in the wrong place at the wrong time, but, until you get this worked on, love will never stick to you, good things will not come to you, and you will be unable to move forward.”

Hearing this from the psychic, whom I had already came to trust, gave me several mixed emotions. Mostly though, I felt relief. All this time, it wasn’t me doing something wrong in life, all the bad was being caused by this inanimate object attached to me. Everything she said to me made everything else all make sense. She told me that she could do a few things to work on this dark energy. Cleanse my aura. Realign my Chakras.  Do some crystal work, and lots of prayer work. I was very intrigued by this and figured even if she was a scammer it would be a neat experience. So I went back to see here again.

In this next session, she started out by telling me that she had done some researching and she had good and bad news. Good news: this darkness was not placed on me by God and it was fixable. Bad news: this negative entity was much more evil and dark than first anticipated. She had me hold her hands and repeat line for line a prayer. Then as homework, she asked me to out outside and pick nine leaves. Then to find an envelope and write my full name nine times on it, and also both my kids, just in case I passed this darkness to them. She said to place the nine leaves into the envelope and seal it. She said when I went to bed to place the envelope under my mattress and when I woke to take it out, and to repeat this. She said to record any dreams I had during this process. Significance: the number nine is the opposite of the number 6 which represents the devil. The leaves represent life. She said by during this ritual it would help to realign how life and help put it as it should be.

So, as you know… I’m a Pisces. I have very little follow through. For one reason or another I stopped going to see her. Maybe I talked myself into thinking she really was a scam and I didn’t need fixing. I kind of thought if I prayed every single night for God to show me my path, that my life would start to move, but it’s not. Honestly I’m starting to worry more & more each day that I do need her, or some kind of spiritual help?

Maybe I should get a second opinion? All I know if I defiantly need help with this. I have all the necessary essentials for success, but I just can’t figure out how to use them? I’ll let you know when something changes !