Many people ask me how it is that I stay so happy…after much consideration, I have created a guide in which I believe to be the answer.
Simple ways to create a happy life.
1) A friend of mine text me a little picture, and he wrote “This reminded me of you”. The little picture read “The happiest people don’t have the best of everything, They just make the best out of everything.” This is first and foremost the essential part of maintaining happiness. I think life is so much more precious when we spend it not wanting, but cherishing what we have. Think about it, when you spend all your time feeling blue because you want this or need a better that, you are disdaining the good things that you all ready have. When you figure out how to stop wanting so much and realize all the amazing blessings that you already have, you’ll find that there is so much more in your life to rejoice about.
2) Worship your support system! There are certain people in my life which I consider to be my “support system”. These rare gems are the people in my life that I can cry on, that check up on me, that call me on my bullshit. I know 110% that these people will be there for me no matter what. I can remember a time when I felt as though I didn’t have much of a support system (although looking back I always did) during this time, I felt worthless, lonely, and hopeless. But, at this point in my life, I can feel, see, and appreciate my support system and that makes me feel: blessed, validated, lucky and just really really happy. The thing is…. these people are RARE. You may only have one or two of them…..do EVERYTHING in your power to keep them close to you. Everyone needs a support system to have a happy life! Figure out who your support system is and WORSHIP them, always.
3) Count your blessings, all of them, even the teenie tiniest of them. Did you eat today? Did you sleep in a bed last night? Do you have a job? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you ARE blessed. I actually started keeping a gratitude journal. At the end of each day I start writing any and all the things that happened to me over the course of the day that I felt grateful for, and it was AMAZING! What’s even more crazy is all the little things that happen to us throughout the day that we “should” feel quite grateful for, but just don’t take the time to appreciate it! Start to write down any little thing that you are grateful for today, I’m quite faithful that by the end of it, you will feel a bit more happy and more fulfilled than you did when you started!
4) In the famous words of Janet Jackson “What have you done for me, lately?” But seriously, when was the last time that you did something for someone else, expecting no form of payment? Doing something for someone else…for me, gives me a sense of worth. It makes me feel pride in myself, and it makes me happy to know that I am helping out. So, okay, I guess all in all, maybe it is just out of selfishness, but regardless, finding ways to help others makes me feel super happy. Almost like a natural high. I find often times that when I am going through a rough spot, I can ease it by doing what I can to help others. Maybe it diversion, maybe it goes hand in hand with being grateful but whatever it is….it works! Trust me.
5) Work hard, Play harder.
A) I am so sick of people whining about how their broke, fat, lonely….ect, when these people do NOTHING at all to help themselves! Get a second job, workout, learn to be a better person so you can keep a man!!! My point is, if you are unhappy yet you do nothing to help yourself…you are only going to get more un-happy. Yet, if you pinpoint what it is that is causing your un-happiness and follow through with a plan to correct the issue, what is going to happen is: You will solve your own problem AND you will have UN-knowingly have built up your self respect and self value…which I believe play key parts in inner happiness!
B) While I believe that there is nothing better than putting your nose to grindstone to relieve stress and un-happiness, I also wholeheartedly believe that the secret to happiness is PLAYING. Don’t take things to seriously. Laugh….A LOT. And play every single second you can.
Well, there you have it people, YOU ARE WELCOME! No but seriously, I believe these are simple things that anyone can do, and I also believe these things to be the main ingredients to my happiness. Just be making a few small changes, you could improve the quality of your life…and those around you.
It’s okay to be happy. YOU deserve it!