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Well hello! It’s been awhile… I am terribly sorry for my absence. Life has been well…faster, busier and also fuller. Besides all that, I hope you know that I missed you and I will try to be more present.

I have kind of been on a hugging rampage! I’ve been finding that I am making more of an effort to do so more often than usual. I love the feeling that I warmed someone’s (anyone’s) heart, but more so I find that it warms my heart. And, not only have I been doing it much more frequently but I’ve also become quite infatuated with learning all about Hugging. I know how silly that must sound but it is terribly interesting!!!

“[H]ugs don’t need new equipment,

Special batteries or parts –

Just open up your arms

And open up your hearts.”

~Johnny Ray Ryder, Jr.,.

Here are varies ways of Hugging:




A-frame hug (or triangle or teepee hug)

Leaning forward a long way, touching at top (forming triangle shape). Quick hug and push away. Little or no eye contact. Formal greeting, often uncomfortable for both people.

Air hug

Open arms slightly to indicate beginnings of hug. Maybe hug oneself. One or both people may do this. Greeting at a distance where real hug is difficult or could be embarrassing.

Bear hug

Full body touch, tight clasp. Possibly with growly noises or belly laughter. One person often stronger. Strong and open affection from extraverted character. Risk of discomfort. Can be an act of domination.

Back pat

Brief hug, often upper-body only, with patting of shoulders or back. Possibly no eye contact. Back pats are friendly but may be indicator of limited affection. In a longer hug, a back pat signals a desire to end the hug.

No eye contact says ‘I’m being polite but don’t really care.’

Back rub

Longer and close than back pat, with rubbing of the back either up and down or in a circular movement two or three times. More familiar and affectionate than back patting. Rubbing is closer to caressing and emulates a parent rubbing a baby to ‘burp’ them. When not done immediately may be a request to end hug.

Body hug

Standard hug, with both people vertical and most of the body touching. Warm embrace, not for too long. Smooth and uninterrupted disengagement. Standard greeting of friends. Shows relaxation and comfort with the other person. May be many variations on this.


The hugger runs up to the other person and leaps wildly onto them, possibly bearing them to the ground. There may well be multiple huggers for one person hugged. Often congratulatory or celebratory, as when a sports team member scores points.

Butt grab

Full body hug with hands grabbing the other person’s bottom, squeezing it or pulling them in. Kissing may also be involved. Hands may go straight to the bottom or may slide down to it from back. Romantic, with strong sexual overtones. May be unwanted act of domination.

Cheek touch

Leaning forward, very light shoulder clasp, touch cheeks, possibly with kissing noise. Polite greeting, respecting the other person’s body and space.


One person holds on for too long. The other tries to pull away but often ends up having to give in and return the longer hug. Need for extended comfort. May be signal of desire for closer romance. May also be act of dominance.


Hugger holding tight or maybe just gently. Hugged person may well be holding tightly. Comforted person rests head on shoulder or breast. Comforting person leans head on head of other person, patting or stroking them. Administering of comfort to distressed other person. May be between friends, partners or parent-child.


Overly tight bear hug. Often held for slightly more than normal hug. May be accidental ‘don’t know my strength’ but likely dominant show of power.


Full-body with heads touching and firm clasp. May include caressing and comforting words or ‘mmm’ sounds. Longer duration. Very similar to the comforter hug and often with this purpose, although may also be romantic or of benefit to both people.

Dancefloor hold

On the dancefloor, one person puts arms around the other’s neck, who puts arms around the waist. They move slowly in time to the music.

Often the woman puts arms around the neck and may rest her head on the man’s chest or shoulder.

Simulation of intimate embrace, even if it is ‘just dancing’. May be a precursor to more romantic events later.


Usually lying or sitting down, the whole bodies including legs are entangled together. Highly sexual. Making two bodies ‘as one’. May be used before, during and after intercourse.

Family hug

Long and firm embrace. Often between parents (or grandparents) and children (even when they are adult). Heads touching. Display of family affection. May be for comfort, greeting or on departure.

Forced kiss

One person tries to kiss (and maybe succeeds) whilst the other pulls away or only allows a quick peck. Poorly-judged attempt at romance or otherwise dislike of kiss by other person.

Full-on kiss

Mutual and extended lip kiss. Successful romantic move (by both).

Group hug

People stand in circle with arms around the backs of persons either side. Heads often down and touching in the middle of the circle. Celebration by group of people. May be ritual confirmation of togetherness.

Hand hug

Looks like shaking hands but other person’s hand is grasped with two hands rather than one. Often used by politicians. May well say ‘I would like to hug you but I am too polite.’

Person with hand on top may be signalling dominance.

Head envelope

The other person’s head is enveloped by the arms and pulled into chest. Hugger may well be taller. Protective and comforting. May be a a part of the comforter hug.

Lap hug

A lateral twister that leads to one person lying in the lap of the other. Romantic. Classic sofa action.

Lateral one-arm hug

People standing or sitting side-by-side. One person puts one arm around the others and gives them a quick hug. Quick and safe sign of approval or affection. If extended may be a comforter.
Romantic if in setting such as movie seats.

Lateral twister

People standing or sitting side-by-side twist towards one another and do as best a frontal body hug as possible. Hugging when constrained by seats. Maybe when lateral one-arm hug leads to more.

Leap and lift

One person (usually the woman) leaps into the air towards the other person and clings onto them, possibly wrapping legs around them. Other person lifts them up, possibly stepping back to absorb the impact. May continue into spin hug. Excited and open greeting, with significant trust and affection.

Leg wrap

During close hug, one leg is wrapped around the back of the other person’s legs. Typically done during long hug with caressing and kissing. Indication of desired and actual intimacy.

Look at you

Head of other person held between two hands for short eye contact and possibly a few words. May be done before or after (or even without) body hug. Eye contact creates closer contact and words may be significant. Can be light admonishment of a child before a forgiving hug.

Lover hug

Slow approach with touching, sliding into embrace with extended stroking and caressing. Romantic and caring. Who knows where it may end up?

Man hug

Quick grab, touching upper body only. Patting back a couple of times. Often avoiding eye contact. Quick release and step back with brief smile.

Similar in some ways to shoulder touch.

Greeting between straight male friends. Friendship but clearly nothing romantic.

Neck grab

One person throws arms around the neck of the other person and pulls them in, with heads touching closely. Often a sign of affection. May also be seeking comfort. Can be dominant.

Open man hug

Fuller body than standard man hug, with more extended hugging. Maybe with cheek hug and head-on-shoulder. Direct affection. May be gay or just liberated.

Pity pat hug

In a romantic situation, one person pats the other quickly a couple of times on the upper back. This signals ‘I don’t want any romance.’ A higher pat shows less interest and quick pats indicate a desire to disengage.

Reverse hug

One person approaches the other from behind and puts arms around waist with full-body touch and possibly leans head on shoulder. Hugged person puts hands over hugging hands and possibly leans back with head against huggers head. Relaxed affection between trusting partners.


Standard body hug with rocking from side to side, often with smiling and laughter. Expression of fun-loving personality. Similar to twister hug.

Sandwich hug

One person is hugged by and between two others. The huggers’ arms may reach around one another. Typically parents hugging a child. Show of affection, comfort or celebration.

Self hug

Wrapping arms around one’s own body. Maybe top arm clasping other arm. Possibly some twisting or rocking. Self-comforting. May signal ‘I would like to hug you’ or ‘I want you to hug me’.

Shoulder drape

One arm casually over shoulder of adjacent person. That person may have arm around hugger’s back or waist (especially if the other person is shorter). Long duration. Not so much a hug as an expression of closeness (and possibly jealous possession).

Shoulder grab

Approach as if to hug but only get as far as grabbing shoulders. Likely to have continued eye contact and arm patting. Often used by men who see hugging as too familiar. May be tactic by one person to prevent a full hug.

Shoulder touch

Hands clasped in handshake followed by pull together, hands still holding and brief touching of shoulders or chests. May be accompanied by ‘ayyy’ sounds. Very often done by men as ‘safe’ and not-too-intimate greeting.

Spin hug

One person (usually the man) puts arm under the other person arms, lifts them and spins them around. Open affection. Shows closeness and trust. May indicate possession.

Spoon hug

When lying down with other person (typically in bed) and they are facing the other way, pressing part of all of body behind them (like two spoons fitting together) and put one arm around them. Like a horizontal reverse hug. Often sustained and may occur as unconscious connection during sleep.


Body hug with oscillating rotation about a vertical axis. Similar to the rocker hug. Shows stronger affection.

Unequal height hug

The shorter person puts arms around the waist and possibly rests head on chest. The taller person wraps arms around upper body and maybe rests head on shorter person’s head. Typically taller man and shorter woman in romantic embrace.

Upper-body hug

Similar to body hug but only touching in the upper body. May be quite quick. Avoiding touching genitalia. Often between man-woman with no romantic connection or between two men.


My personal favorite is the Leaping or Flying hug! That one really makes me feel good. Okay so there are a million ways to actually do the hugging and probably even more reasons why you would hug someone. Maybe a greeting, to comfort, to bond, so affection, for romance, which are all great reasons, BUT did you know that Hugging has actually been scientifically proven to enhance your own health? Pretty neat! Hugging therapy is definitely a powerful way of healing. Research shows that hugging (and also laughter) is extremely effective at healing sickness, disease, loneliness, depression, anxiety and stress. According to research shows a proper deep hug, where the hearts are pressing together, can benefit you in these ways:


1. The nurturing touch of a hug builds trust and a sense of safety. This helps with open and honest communication. (Sounds good, right !?!)


2. Hugs can instantly boost oxytocin (a mammalian neurophysiology hormone) levels, which heal feelings of loneliness, isolation, and anger. (Healthier and cheaper than Xanax.)


3. Holding a hug for an extended time lifts one’s serotonin levels, elevating mood and creating happiness. (Instant High.)


4. Hugs strengthen the immune system. The gentle pressure on the sternum and the emotional charge this creates activates the Solar Plexus Chakra. This stimulates the thymus gland, which regulates and balances the body’s production of white blood cells, which keep you healthy and disease free. (Free Anti-Biotics.)


5. Hugging boosts self-esteem. From the time we’re born our family’s touch shows us that we’re loved and special. The associations of self-worth and tactile sensations from our early years are still imbedded in our nervous system as adults. The cuddles we received from our Mom and Dad while growing up remain imprinted at a cellular level, and hugs remind us at a somatic level of that. Hugs, therefore, connect us to our ability to self-love. (If you can’t love yourself, how the Hell are you gonna love someone else?)


6. Hugging relaxes muscles. Hugs release tension in the body. Hugs can take away pain; they soothe aches by increasing circulation into the soft tissues. (Hugs > Painkillers)


7. Hugs balance out the nervous system. The galvanic skin response of someone receiving and giving a hug shows a change in skin conductance. The effect in moisture and electricity in the skin suggests a more balanced state in the nervous system – parasympathetic. (Again, Cheaper than Xanax.)


8. Hugs teach us how to give and receive. There is equal value in receiving and being receptive to warmth, as to giving and sharing. Hugs educate us how love flows both ways. (The giving is good!)


9. Hugs are so much like meditation and laughter. They teach us to let go and be present in the moment. They encourage us to flow with the energy of life. Hugs get you out of your circular thinking patterns and connect you with your heart, your feelings and your breath. (If you can’t make time for Yoga, just get in some good hugs.)


10. The energy exchange between the people hugging is an investment in the relationship. It encourages empathy and understanding. And, it’s synergistic, which means the whole is more than the sum of its parts: 1 1 = 3 or more! This synergy is more likely to result in win-win outcomes. (This is my favorite, the actual physical exchange of energy between two people.)

How awesome is that to be able to exchange energy with a simple act, like hugging? One can actually pass good vibes threw their skin and into anothers body. That is terribly fascinating to me!!! That’s actually a real thing. I did a little investigating about the possibility of energy transfer through touch and I read this: “One study involved wiring pairs of subjects up to electrodes and having them sit five feet apart. The researchers found that one person’s heart energy waves (electrocardiogram output) were not detectable by the electrodes on the surface of the other person’s body at that distance. However, when they were holding hands, each person’s heart energy waves were detectable on the surface of the others body, and even in the others brain waves.” Fascinating!

“Millions and millions of years would still not give me half enough time to describe that tiny instant of all eternity when you put your arms around me and I put my arms around you.”  ~Jacques Prévert

I hope you enjoyed this valuable information as much as I did! Take care of yourself, and each other. Please give yourself a hug for me!



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